This is the story of a lovely lady with tree kids (does this sound like the Brady Bunch?) who met a loving caring man with five kids......To begin this part of my writing lets go back few years when I was about twenty-two, worked at the University in Lima, Peru, South America, single, nice figure (no kids...), and was full of life (I still feel the same). I have a good family, friends and a beautiful home. My sisters settled in Mesa, Arizona and invited me to go visit them and go to school. We met a nice LDS family who introduced us to the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints. They sent Spanish speaking missionaries to teach us about the church and the first day we attended church we went in blue jeans (like the Catholic church). We were wondering why everyone was looking at us so strange...
After few months we made the most important decision that changed our lives forever and became members of the Church. As we attended the University Ward, we met fantastic and fun people. We had parties at our house every week with permission of the Bishop (sometimes he/his family attended).
As things happen in life, I got divorced and decided to search for my eternal companion. As Craig indicated we found each other online and on the first date I felt nervous but comfortable. We had few more dates and started to know him better but I wanted to wait for while to give more time to our relationship. He is very sweet, calm and very polite, has good parents and family and has a big heart and loves his kids so much. At this time I just wanted to give myself and my kids more time and we separated for a while. Few years later we reconnected again and the loving feeling started to grow back. I had the soft voice in my heart that told me that this was the time and he was the man that I would share my life for eternity. Craig is a sweet little kid in a man's body, funny, smart and kind, caring for others and very loving. He is my best friend. He makes me laugh so hard that I have to run to the bathroom fast or in other occasions I run out of breath. I do respect him as a Priesthood holder, because I believe he has the authority to guide me and my family and protect and love us as his own. Every time I learn new things from him, his sense of humor, his loving touch, his soft voice gives me calm in my heart. I just can't imagine living another life. We complement and respect each other all the time and we are still getting to know each other. I believe this is the beginning of a eternal marriage. I would like to grow older with him and see my grandchildren around us, getting to know them better. I believe I have been blessed (sometimes we have to go through a lot pain in life to realize how much we have learned and count our blessings) to have my kids and found Craig in my life.
I love you Craig.
July 24, 2009
July 22, 2009
How We Met
As Doris and I start this blog, I often ask myself what I am going post here. I basically have no clue what to write and I have gone to my children’s blog to find some guidance. I am sure I will ask for their help at times. With that said, I will just start. I guess I will randomly add posts about my life individually and my life with Doris. I am sure that Doris will do the same. It will be interesting, especially for me, to see what she posts.
I started dating Doris around November of 2003. I personally knew by the second date that she was a good woman
and she is someone I would definitely want to get to know better. She is a beautiful Latina woman (dark hair and eyes with olive colored skin) who was born and r
aised in Lima, Peru. She moved to the United States, along with her two sisters when she was around 23, then her parents moved to USA few years later. She has been in the US for some time now and speaks fluent English. I found her sweet, kind and affectionate. We dated and our relationship grew but it seemed to me that after about six months it stalled. We dated for a year and a half before breaking up. She wasn’t ready to get married and I didn’t want to wait. How long this would take, I didn’t know. We had met on the web through an on line service for church members. When I tell most people that, they give me this “cross-eyed” look like I must be crazy or something. I have to admit, when I was first introduced to this, I was not “too thrilled” about the idea either. In fact, I felt a deep sour pit my stomach. Not good. At first I rejected it when it was suggested to me by a friend. He said it was a great way to meet women and he was having some success at it. I thought I would take my chances at the adult singles ward of the church I attend. This congregation caters to singles ages 31 to 45. You cannot have minor children living with you to be a member of the ward. The church wants you to attend “family” wards if you still have children under 18 living at home. But you can come as a visitor if you like. After a year in the ward I realized there was no women there, that either, I was interested in to get to know better or they were not interested to get to know me better. It wasn’t too long before I left the ward and had my membership records moved back into the “family” ward where I lived. So……. since no women were knocking at my door wanting to get to know me better and I didn’t go to singles bars and the singles activities were attended by the same singles all the time and the singles dances were attended by the same singles all the time, the only thing I could do was give this a try. I didn’t give myself much hope that this would work. I made many mistakes (go figure) in my first few dates and it was tough to get back into the dating scene. At my age and having been married at 19 and recently divorced a couple years prior, marriage was really all I could relate to. But slowly I learned from my faux pas and I worked out a system to meet women on line. I learned not to rush things. Nothing was going to happen without the woman’s approval. I just let her make the decisions of how fast getting to know each other was going to take. However, I found a book that was invaluable to me. It is called “The Dating Dictionary” by Doc Love. I know it sounds weird, but this book is written mainly for men. It cuts though all the debris in relationships and gives men true meaning in woman actions in the relationship. It is a “straight shootin’” book and helps men find a good woman to build a relationship with. It really helped me “weed out” the ones that truly weren’t interested in me and the ones that were. It helped me save a lot of time and money dating women. I recommend it to any man who is looking for a woman to spend the rest of their life with. It’s tough on the man’s ego, but we men have to remember we do have an ego and we should be able to get over that.
Moving on…… Doris and I reconnected in January of 2007. It was a chance meeting and having exchanged a few cordial emails we decided to give us another try. This time I was not as open to Doris. I was still a little timid getting back together but this time she was ready to make that commitment. She said some things that really impressed me. She truly expressed her feelings for me and to back that up, she proved it by her actions. That thought stayed in my mind and I thought about it all the time. After a couple of weeks I felt impressed deeply in my heart that she was the one I wanted to be with and we both made that commitment to each other. She told her children and her extended family and in June, I officially proposed to her. In November, we married in the Me
sa Arizona Mormon temple. Our relationship is getting better and better all the time. We’re still getting to know each other but I feel calm and at peace, both in my mind and in my heart, with my decision to marry her. She has so many wonderful qualities I could go on and on and probably bore you to death but to me she really is my love, my friend and companion. She treats me so good. We have fun together and she really thinks I am funny. She has never raised her voice to me, (going on two and a half years, four years altogether) even when we disagreed on an issue. She truly practices the art of having the “soft voice” or “answer” as President Hinckley describes. I am so blessed. I will tell you that God answers prayers. She is an answer to one of my prayers that is for sure. I want everyone to know that. “Te quiero, Doris.”
I started dating Doris around November of 2003. I personally knew by the second date that she was a good woman
and she is someone I would definitely want to get to know better. She is a beautiful Latina woman (dark hair and eyes with olive colored skin) who was born and r
aised in Lima, Peru. She moved to the United States, along with her two sisters when she was around 23, then her parents moved to USA few years later. She has been in the US for some time now and speaks fluent English. I found her sweet, kind and affectionate. We dated and our relationship grew but it seemed to me that after about six months it stalled. We dated for a year and a half before breaking up. She wasn’t ready to get married and I didn’t want to wait. How long this would take, I didn’t know. We had met on the web through an on line service for church members. When I tell most people that, they give me this “cross-eyed” look like I must be crazy or something. I have to admit, when I was first introduced to this, I was not “too thrilled” about the idea either. In fact, I felt a deep sour pit my stomach. Not good. At first I rejected it when it was suggested to me by a friend. He said it was a great way to meet women and he was having some success at it. I thought I would take my chances at the adult singles ward of the church I attend. This congregation caters to singles ages 31 to 45. You cannot have minor children living with you to be a member of the ward. The church wants you to attend “family” wards if you still have children under 18 living at home. But you can come as a visitor if you like. After a year in the ward I realized there was no women there, that either, I was interested in to get to know better or they were not interested to get to know me better. It wasn’t too long before I left the ward and had my membership records moved back into the “family” ward where I lived. So……. since no women were knocking at my door wanting to get to know me better and I didn’t go to singles bars and the singles activities were attended by the same singles all the time and the singles dances were attended by the same singles all the time, the only thing I could do was give this a try. I didn’t give myself much hope that this would work. I made many mistakes (go figure) in my first few dates and it was tough to get back into the dating scene. At my age and having been married at 19 and recently divorced a couple years prior, marriage was really all I could relate to. But slowly I learned from my faux pas and I worked out a system to meet women on line. I learned not to rush things. Nothing was going to happen without the woman’s approval. I just let her make the decisions of how fast getting to know each other was going to take. However, I found a book that was invaluable to me. It is called “The Dating Dictionary” by Doc Love. I know it sounds weird, but this book is written mainly for men. It cuts though all the debris in relationships and gives men true meaning in woman actions in the relationship. It is a “straight shootin’” book and helps men find a good woman to build a relationship with. It really helped me “weed out” the ones that truly weren’t interested in me and the ones that were. It helped me save a lot of time and money dating women. I recommend it to any man who is looking for a woman to spend the rest of their life with. It’s tough on the man’s ego, but we men have to remember we do have an ego and we should be able to get over that.Moving on…… Doris and I reconnected in January of 2007. It was a chance meeting and having exchanged a few cordial emails we decided to give us another try. This time I was not as open to Doris. I was still a little timid getting back together but this time she was ready to make that commitment. She said some things that really impressed me. She truly expressed her feelings for me and to back that up, she proved it by her actions. That thought stayed in my mind and I thought about it all the time. After a couple of weeks I felt impressed deeply in my heart that she was the one I wanted to be with and we both made that commitment to each other. She told her children and her extended family and in June, I officially proposed to her. In November, we married in the Me
sa Arizona Mormon temple. Our relationship is getting better and better all the time. We’re still getting to know each other but I feel calm and at peace, both in my mind and in my heart, with my decision to marry her. She has so many wonderful qualities I could go on and on and probably bore you to death but to me she really is my love, my friend and companion. She treats me so good. We have fun together and she really thinks I am funny. She has never raised her voice to me, (going on two and a half years, four years altogether) even when we disagreed on an issue. She truly practices the art of having the “soft voice” or “answer” as President Hinckley describes. I am so blessed. I will tell you that God answers prayers. She is an answer to one of my prayers that is for sure. I want everyone to know that. “Te quiero, Doris.”July 19, 2009
Our Jouney Together
Our eternal journey together began on November 17th, 2007. My wonderful wife, Doris, wanted me to start this blog with that date so that I would not forget. I have to admit, with a little bit of embarrassment, she is correct. She said that in case I do forget, then I can come here and see the date. She really does have a great sense of humor and laughs at my jokes and shortcomings. This is one of the pictures we took together for our wedding announcement. I felt calm and was very happy that I found someone that was willing to spend her life with me. I think she's amazing!
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